Would you accept your partner's best friend being their ex?
Your partner's closest friend is their ex. They are honest about it, nothing has ever happened, and it still sits worse with you than you have admitted. You can say it is a problem, and risk sounding insecure or controlling. Or you can let it be, and risk carrying it quietly for years. Trust, honesty and respect for each other's history all point in slightly different directions here.
Your partner's closest friend is their ex. It sits worse with you than you have let on.
Why people pick each side
Say it is a problem for you
Saying it is a problem leans Assertiveness: you believe your feelings count in the relationship and you would rather raise them than let them grow in silence.
Let the friendship be
Letting the friendship be leans Openness: you trust your partner and their history, and you think a relationship has room for a past that is not yours.
You know what you believe. But what would you do?
13 everyday dilemmas. No right answers. Your choices point to one of 13 archetypes, and then you find out how alike you and your friends really are.
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