Questions to ask your partner: what would you do?
The best conversations with a partner are not about what you did today. They are about what you would do if. If they said I love you before you were ready. If their phone lit up with a name you did not know. If they were offered a dream job in another city. Ask each other these questions, answer separately, then compare. You will learn more about how the other person thinks than in a month of small talk, and you can see how everyone else answered too.
Early on, they say I love you. You are not there yet.
Your partner's phone lights up with a name you do not know. They are in the shower.
Your partner could take a dream job in another city. They say they will turn it down if you ask.
Your date asks why your last relationship ended. The true answer does not flatter you.
Three months in, your partner suggests moving in together. It feels fast. It also feels right.
Your partner asks if you would still choose them if you could start over. You pause a beat too long.
Three months in, they ask about the one before them. The honest version is: it was deep, and it ended badly.
Your partner suggests you trade old journals, the ones from before you met.
Your partner proposes a chore chart, split exactly fifty-fifty.
Your partner wants a dog. You really do not.
Your partner talks over you in groups, charmingly, always. Tonight, again, mid-sentence.
Your partner answers your phone when it rings near them. Breezily, like it is nothing.
Your partner volunteers you both to host the gathering without asking you. Again.
Your partner hates surprises. You have found the perfect one, and you are sure this is the exception.
You have the ring. The planned moment is a month away. Tonight, on an ordinary walk, it feels right.
Want to go deeper? You can both take the free 13-dilemma test and compare which traits lead your choices.
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